I went to bed one night, tired, depressed, broke, exhausted, frustrated, angry, lonely and lacking any real ambition. 24 hours later I woke up feeling inspired, young, alive, smiling, wealthy, with love in my heart and someone to share it with. What happened in that short blink of an eye. Read the article to find out.
Let’s begin with a little history. I was 40 years old, and had been on a “quest of self discovery” for over 40 years. I think it began pre natal. Anyway, this included some rather bizarre experiments with my own consciousness that included wild sex, drugs, meditation in caves, starvation, painful yoga, Zen meditation with whips, heart stopping sports, trekking through the Himalaya, dancing with First Nation people, smoking some weird materials with Shaman in Indonesia and the list goes on.
So, it was a horrifying shock to the system when it all came to a grinding halt. One day, I woke up happy. I don’t mean happy as in ha, ha happy. I mean happy as in wow, how amazing is this?
That transformation came at the hands of no one. No philosophy, no spiritual guru, no chanting or meditating or tantric ecstasy those things I’d had plenty of, but none lasted to the main gate of the ashram. No, this was and is, permanent.
To put this in even greater context, I’d even climbed to mountain tops in Nepal, and on some occasions considered throwing myself into the icy abyss below. So, my quest was not a casual, “gee lets see what happens if I try a local yoga class” no, I am talking about experiments that cost years, investments that cost a life fortune, journeys that broke bones and tore muscles from muscle. Life threatening fasts, diets that turned food into a hydraulic weapon fired out my behind. This is not the “put your foot in the bath” type of journey, this is the loose the family and the family crystal type journey.
So, that day, when the lights went on, is a truly remarkable day. In that 24 hour period, everything I had done to that time was proven to be a total waste of money and time, all that it achieved was to narrow the gates, close the escapes, reduce the options. Here I was, in this 24 hour turn around, my life transformed forever, and really, if I had known what I knew that day, I could have done it 40 years ago.
How to change your life in 24 hours…. From frustrated, tired, depressed, over worked, poor, lonely and confused to happy, inspired, open hearted and wealthy?
The answer is: Stop trying to change yourself.
Always wanting to be different, aspiring to be better, greater, smarter, healthier, happier makes you depressed, bored, worse, dumber, unhealthy and unhappier.
The key is to see that uniqueness is not a curse. Normal is the new amazing. Real is the new inspired. Silent is the new noisy. Suddenly, I realized that I didn’t have to make other people happy, they can do that. I didn’t need to be someone other than who I was. And the idea that there will be a better, greater, happier, more interesting me, well it went away. I fell in love. With Chris. Me.
Suddenly I wasn’t lonely because I had a feeling of love already within me. Suddenly I couldn’t be depressed because there was nothing to compare where I was, to where I wanted to be, so no way to be depressed. Suddenly I had energy because when life is dishing goodness, you feel good. I wasn’t bored anymore because the anger that was capping my energy went away.
24 hours. And all the therapy, yoga, meditation and reading fell to the floor. I was naked, alive and the feeling has not gone in 14 years since. What keeps me on track and happy are the laws of nature. I put those together after this transformation. Those laws actually come from the ancient mysteries of Egypt, India and Greece. They are the secrets of the universe, the great wisdom. I stepped down the complexity because nature is a teacher we can all admire.
The Laws of Nature are available to everyone. You just go outside and work in the garden. You don’t have to go all the way to Nepal with me. No, you can simply climb a tree, dig a weed, walk by the lake and you’ll see. Everything is perfect, there’s beauty everywhere, as long as we stop trying to change it.
The only thing you can change in the entire universe, according to the perennial wisdom, is your mind. So why not change it? All you need to do to achieve that change is to choose. Choose to change your mind. Change it for one purpose and one purpose only, and that is beauty.
When you are kind to people, they feel good. That means you applied all the great knowledge of eternity in one act, kindness. Loving kindness is the culmination of billions of books and all the confusion summarized into two words, loving kindness. When you treat something, or someone with loving kindness, it is really a very high personal achievement. So, sustaining happiness means not wanting to change yourself, and certainly not wanting to change others, and to prove it, treat them with loving kindness.
Live with Spirit!